“Tiffany, I just want to see you. I don’t care what your house looks like! Don’t you know me better than that? I don’t judge people based on how messy their house is, especially with kids!”
That’s when it hit me: she was right! I know her. She’s my friend. I know that she’s not a judgmental person. We’ve always been close, and we know about each other’s strengths and weaknesses.
Thinking about it that way made me realize that when I stress about what people are going to think about my messy house, I’m really telling them I think they’re a judgmental person. I’m telling them that I think they think negatively about me behind my back.
But I don’t really think that!
And honestly, if they’re going to judge me for being a mom with young children, then that’s their problem, not mine. If they have an issue with a cluttered house, that says more about me than it does about them.
I need to give myself the same grace I’d give a friend of mine in the same situation.
Now keep in mind, I’m not talking about having guests over for days, but just casual, everyday interactions.
If a friend (or my kid’s friends) want to come over, but I have dirty dishes in the sink and toys all over the floor, let them come!
Let them come – your messy house is okay!
So today and tomorrow, while I work 24/7 looking for Amazon deals on Prime Day in my PJs for my Amazon Facebook Group, I’m going to still have my kids’ playdate at my house. I’m going to still have my sister and her husband over for a couple of days.
Because being myself is the greatest compliment and evidence of our friendship that I can give them.
My messy house says, “I love you, and I consider you a good friend.”
My messy house says, “I know that you’re not a judgmental person.”
And my messy house says, “I feel comfortable enough around you to be able to be myself, flaws and all.”
My messy house says, “I think you’re a kind person, and that makes me feel confident in your presence.”
Letting you see my messy house is the greatest compliment I can give about our friendship.
What does your messy house say about you?
And if the mess is just driving you crazy, then you may find these free decluttering programs to be helpful.
You may also want to get your kids involved with this age-appropriate chores list and free printable kids chores chart!
An earlier version of this post Tiffany wrote can be found on The Crazy Shopping Cart
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